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For whatever reason, I went forward with the date with Andre. Once I got there, I started to feel really nervous, and when I’m nervous, my accent becomes even stronger.I had to repeat what I was saying a couple of times, every time I spoke.In response, I got the reassuring “No worries—I’m not a rapist” and a sarcastic “You’re such a nun.”For a (long) minute, I regretted downloading Tinder.This unashamed sexual pressure was completely new and weird.Meeting people in France generally goes by the old-school method: dating friends of your friends, my dear!
I quickly decided that I wouldn’t include pictures of myself pointing at the Eiffel Tower, no marinière and beret, only a faithful caption in my bio that said a lot about me—“Best French-accent imitator.” Not too revealing, and mysterious enough to hide any evidence of being French, which I had a feeling would be bait for some guys trying to tick a box.And believe it or not, I’m more than my nationality. “You’re hot enough to melt fire and burn Satan,” some man wrote, leaving me genuinely confused. I’ve been exposed to the same type of gross comments in person in France when taking the subway or walking on the street, but they never popped up on my phone during the middle of day.Almost instantly after hitting Create, I was thrown into the Bay Area dating jungle. Once my identity as a French woman revealed itself in conversation, I experienced the most stereotypical exchanges of my life.Another enlightened me on his intentions in my own language: “Oh…I never thought that I would use this, but ‘Voulez-vous coucher avec moi?’”—which is actually the sentence I’ve heard the most since I moved to the US.
This is a reputation American men hold overseas that turns out to often be true—that they ghost, date many women at the same time and have commitment issues.