Post divorce dating tips
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Lee is a certified professional divorce coach, published author, public speaker, blogger and writes for the Huffington Post, as well as many other online and offline publications.
Perhaps you have perused an image of a woman triumphantly grasping a wine glass surrounded by her girlfriends in wine country. Ironically, we are putting ourselves out there for the first time with this unspoken ubiquitous reality among us, and feel pressure to do it confidently and with a smile on our faces, like we have our f*cking sh*t together. Trust me, this will come in handy as you meet someone, and almost instantly, you find yourself fantasizing about your wedding or, on the flip side, wanting to retreat to a cave in isolation. Here is the fun part: allow yourself to indulge You deserve the best scenario possible! Expect to have feelings come up about your ex—that you may have thought were resolved. Do you get triggered by someone’s needs or emotions?
We have our sh*t together, given the badassery required to come out on the other side of divorce. Perhaps you miss them, or compare new people to them, or feel a strong aversion to them as you meet others who feel like a much more appropriate fit. Chances are, all of these reactions are your old baggage coming to visit you. You will have advice coming at you from all directions. I’ve been divorced for 7 years and on and off, trying to date again.
“And I found myself dating again,” said Fisher, author of the new book, Dating for Dads: The Single Father’s Guide to Dating Well Without Parenting Poorly. “But this time I was a widowed and divorced woman,” Fisher said.
“And getting out there, well, it’s not easy.” But singles and divorce experts alike agree that Fisher is not alone.
You may even find yourself wishing for your old life as you venture into a significant discomfort zone. They say that we subconsciously seek out people to act out old emotional wounds with so they can show us what we need to heal. Regardless of what you hear from the outside, know yourself best! Not completely giving up on this but also not trying all that hard.
Something that was once familiar and precious is no longer there. There is so much to learn—about yourself and another human—just by sitting across from each other on a casual coffee date. Notice how you feel in your body and mind when in another’s company. We may activate old childhood wounds that have been dormant for a long time.
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But a second surprise came when Fisher began to once again hit the dating scene and was swept off her feet by a man who, after a two-and-a-half year marriage, became her ex-husband.
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Indeed, there will be uncomfortable cringe-worthy conversations about birth control, STD testing, and the list goes on. Maybe you suddenly miss your kids when your house feels quiet and vacuous during their visits with your ex. Allow yourself to feel the uniquely nuanced versions of pain. We have all seen some things in this phase of life!