Dating over the years
In closing, I love him ,but I know now that I am not "in love" with him anymore. We went through a horrible ordeal 2 years ago that really tested our relationship. But, now I'm just wondering where it goes from here. I'd like to be married before living with my boyfriend. He had no problem talking about getting another dog which is a commitment but, what about me?! We met when we were in early college (late teens/early twenties) but always talked about getting married (even after 1 year together).So I will have to have this heart-to-heart conversation ( don't want to marry him now) with him very soon. I'm sorry to say this, but he will never ask you to marry him. I just don't understand why he hasn't committed to me. I thought it would be an eye opener for both of us after our horrible experience 2 years ago. After college, I ended up Moving across the country for him and thought a proposal was coming.I don't have that drive to keep trying to fix it anymore. " But I let him talk me into believing it will be different.I do feel that the relationship can suffer for some couples such as mine, when it been a long period of dating. These past three weeks he and I have not communicated and this morning it was a shouting match over the phone; something I don't do ( I stepped out of character) that did not make me feel good at all. I've been with my guy for well over 10 years but no proposal.I have been dating my guy for 10 1/2 years but we still are not married.
I'm by no means ready to move on and meet someone else but when I am it will be someone who wants to commit to me for life and doesn't have to be asked to. Presently, I have come accustom to being by myself. Today is not the first or third time I said to myself " this is not working for me!
He wanted a room-mate, companion and someone to help pay his household bills..attitude was why buy the cow when you get it for free!!
I moved out....moved to another state 800 miles away and purchased my own home... He has committment issues and will never marry you. I have also been dating the same man for over 10years. Ladies who want marriage shouldn't lower their expectations.
My best friend was with her Husband and they got Married after 18 years together 3 years ago. If you move out its really really hard 1000 times harder after living together.
Ok have you asked him why he doesnt seem to want to marry you ? Ask yourself would you rather be Married just to be Married or can you be happy just as you are forever?