Dating a widowed man with kids
One of his two adult married children has fully accepted me, as have all his friends and other family members, which include the entire family of his late wife.
They have all accepted me and have told my partner how happy they are for us.
What is meant when an adult child steadfastly maintains, “I am not ready” to meet your new love?
Does this mean they are not ‘ready’ to see their parent remarry or they aren’t ‘ready’ to see their parent date?
However, this information is as relevant for men dating widows.
It also applies for families who experienced divorce.
Whether a parent was sick for years or was in a horrific marriage doesn’t enter the adult child’s grief process at all.We do know that the couple are dating for two years and despite the entire family being on board with the relationship, one adult married child is firmly holding out- seemingly asking his father to “choose” either a relationship with a significant other or with himself.Perhaps there are other issues here that are being defined as “ready”-sometimes adult children worry about their parent’s finances/ their inheritance or are threatened that the new person will ”take away” the surviving parent’s affection and attention, especially if the new partner has children of her own.However, my partner’s other adult married child says that he isn’t ready to meet me, and doesn’t know when he will be ready.I am excluded from all of my partner’s family events whenever this person is present.
Suddenly the bereaved child can feel as if they are losing their father to a new family.